The personality you have is not a choice.
it is a cage
of conditioning, memory, trauma, and reactive binary equilibrium.
even self awareness of the personality doesn’t change the causal nature of its psychological structure.
responding rather than reacting comes from a deeper place than the personality. From a place of stillness.
do not react from your personality to another person’s personality. Respond from the depths of your heart.
Then you see, psychological work can be done good enough. And at something it’s time to put the person you are aside.